I have a question for you. Ready? Do you ever feel stuck with your decor? Your color choices? Your furniture? Your style? Well, I have lots to say about that topic today! And the first thing you need to know is I understand and you do not need to feel that way!
I was with a group of friends this week and the topic of decorating came up.
My ears perked up and I just listened. I wanted to hear what my friends were saying about their homes and decorating.
I wasn’t surprised to hear my friends lament about wishing they had changed this or that long ago. And how overwhelmed they often felt when it came to decorating.
They were stuck. Being stuck is a horrible feeling! Today let’s talk about what to do when you feel stuck with our decor.
I think “feeling stuck” is hopeless and resigned. Feeling stuck does not move you forward or keep you motivated! We do not have to feel stuck with our decor. Here are some ways to get unstuck and start creating a home you love and are excited to decorate!
Today I’m putting the best advice I have in a BIG post! I hope this helps to motivate you and get you moving towards decorating your home with what you love!
TAKE A DEEP BREATH!
Sometimes I can make a big mountain out of a molehill! Yes, believe it.
And I bet you can too.
Be thankful for a roof over your head, a bed to sleep in and food on the table. REALLY! Just take a step back, even though you can’t abide those jabot curtains and that plaid sofa anymore, just breathe.
Be thankful for what you have! Being stuck with what you have is really a big blessing. Even if you don’t particularly love it!
KNOW YOUR DECORATING STYLE
Most home decor enthusiasts are stuck living with things they don’t like not because they don’t have good taste. Actually, it’s probably because they do know beauty when they see it! But, sadly don’t know their own unique style!
Unfortunately, they do not know how to filter out all the pretty home decor things they see and then buy that won’t work with their homes!
They buy or redo or repurpose things and end up with a mismatched look that doesn’t look at all like them.
I know! I call this the HomeGood dilemma.
When HomeGood’s first came to my area I would fill a cart or two with lots of things I love. They had so much I loved! Dishes, accent pieces, candles, chairs, rugs, bed linens. Everything looked amazing!
But when I got home, although the items themselves were beautiful they looked jumbled up and confusing in my home. I was too busy loving everything and taking it all home. I did not have a style filter!
I did this over and over before I got very serious about truly knowing my decorating style! Now when I go to HomeGoods I can love everything but I don’t have to take it all home.
I have learned to filter all the things I love and only take home what will work in my home. It’s amazing how knowing your style will make decorating so much easier!
I have saved so many headaches over the years and tons of cash just by knowing my style.
I know what I should and should not put in my home. And when I do change things up in a room I have lots of decor options from around my house because many things I own work in almost any room.
The number one most important thing to do is to learn and know your decorating style! You cannot decorate with confidence and get great results if you don’t!
MAKE A PLAN
It takes lots of thought and planning to have an effortlessly beautiful home! One you love and feel good about.
If you fail to plan you plan to fail!!!
Start now. Put your dreams to paper and get a Pinterest board and fill it with things you love.
Think of collecting all the things you love on a Pinterest board as window shopping! Just keep adding all the decor you think is pretty to your board!
When you have a big collection of things you really love THEN do this…
Take a serious look at all it. And find the repeated elements you see over and over again. Notice the things you are drawn to. The things we are drawn to over and over again can give us a good indication of our style.
You will soon be able to pick out those repeated elements you love easily!
Using this process I discovered that I am leaning towards a classic but updated look these days. I’m so over that chippy, farmhouse style I loved so much.
Now I like a cleaner, less cluttered and more curated look!
TACKLE YOUR WORST OFFENDER
If you are not happy with some or even much of your home furnishing remember, you can’t do it all at once. And if you did you would be in the same boat of dissatisfaction again!
Decorating is a process. That includes mistakes. So you will want to take your time.
Decide on one room or one area of your home you are not thrilled with!
When we moved into our Tanglewood home the first thing we tackled was the paint. We had the entire inside of the house painted. Walls and every speck of trim! It was a huge undertaking!
But it was the “worst offender”. Once painted the entire house looked fresher and easier to decorate!
Paint is usually one of the easiest things you can do and it will totally change the look of a room!
Being stuck with furnishings you have grown out of or decor that has never really worked for you can make you feel unhappy and unmotivated.
Again, I KNOW and feel your pain.
It may seem impossible to create a home you love to live in but you can. Rome was not built in a day and either is a home you love. It is a process!
Actually, your home should never be done! If it is you are bound to get stuck again.
We should keep up with our homes and our styles as they both evolve.
When I start to feel a bit stuck with my decor or creatively dry I ask myself a few important questions…
- Is there one thing I can do now (or work on now) that will move my home and my style in a positive direction?
- What are three things I would love to change the most?
- What is holding me back and is there a way around it?
- Can I break these changes up into smaller projects so I feel more successful and creative?
Questions like these usually help me make goals for changes in my home.
When an idea moves into goal magic happens! A goal gives me something concrete to do! And that moves me, and you, forward.
Don’t stay stuck. Start with one thing that will move you forward and motivate you towards your goal!
Do not resign yourself to living with things you don’t love! Make even the smallest changes that make you happy!
CHANGE WHAT YOU CAN
Let’s get real! You may not be able to change everything in a room or your home but you can change some things. These are wise, true words.
If you really don’t like your cherry dining room set anymore but you spent too much to get rid of it (I understand!)… don’t be resigned to living with it.
Keep the table, paint the side chairs and add a dropcloth cover over any offending material on it (or have it reupholstered)! Then get inexpensive but pretty new head chairs!
I did that exact thing to my matchy-matchy expensive set!
And when I stopped feeling guilty about letting go of my old, but beautiful, outdated furniture it was freeing!
CLEAN IT UP
The easiest way to feel better about your space is to clean it up. Get rid of anything that is tired or broken or does not give you joy! And organize.
Why hold onto things that don’t serve a purpose anymore. Donate them and let them give someone else joy!
I’ve lived with some pretty sparse rooms in my day. I just am determined to clean up and weed out what is not working in my home!
LIVE WITH LESS
I’m a s-l-o-w decorator. I like to live with things for a bit before I add another layer of decor. So living with less, for me, is a way of life.
I love the idea of giving a room room to breathe!
Most of us actually over decorate. So live with just enough in your home to be comfortable and beautiful!
Gone are the days of layer upon layers of decor!
Here is my favorite decorating mantra…
BIGGER IS BETTER AND LESS IS MORE!
Seriously, decorating words to live by!
DON’T BE PENNY WISE AND POUND FOOLISH
I think many home decorators spend way too much on furnishings that are not anchor pieces of a room.
There is a time to spend our hard earned dollars to get something that will literally make a room spectacular and a time to buy something nice that will work with a room.
Here are my best 4 pearls of wisdom
- not everything has to be the best quality
- only spend as much money as years you are willing to keep something
- expensive items should be timeless and neutral
- cheap is cheap
Today we can find things for our home that are very good quality but we don’t have to always buy the best.
One thing I insist on splurging on are lampshades. An inexpensive lamp can fool you and look good but a cheap lampshade gives itself away. Now a good lampshade for me is one in the $20.00 – $40.00 range. I could find one for $200.00 and love it but that would blow my budget! Pound foolish for sure!
The more we spend on an item the more classic it should be and the more neutral in color too. Very smart! Classic furnishings don’t date themselves as quickly as other styles.
Accessories are great things to add a more trendy look to your home because they cost less and are much easier to replace.
Lastly, we often get what we pay for. Cheaply made items get tired and worn out faster, break more easily and well, often look cheap! Don’t go the cheap route for larger things in your home to save a few pennies. You might be sorry!
ALL DECOR HAS AN EXPIRATION DATE
Like the milk in our refrigerator, ALL decor has an expiration date! PLEASE remember this. Every decade in history is marked by its signature fashion and home decor.
What decade are you living in within your home?
If it makes you happy, then great! But if you are stuck with decor that is decades old and it makes you cringe then break out of the past! Use the tips above to help you.
Our mothers and grandmothers (and maybe us) would often get home furnishings and keep them forever. But with the advent of the internet and great online sources for decor and accents, we have a world of great quality home goods right at our fingertips. Affordable things! There is a price point for almost anyone!
And unlike our mothers, grandmothers or great-grandmothers we no longer have to choose our home decor when we are in our early 20’s and live with it until we die!
We’ve talked quite frankly about money in this post. Because changing our style and look is not free. But here’s the thing… think of decor like clothing or hair or makeup.
You are not wearing the clothes you wore in college. Oh how I wish I could fit into mine, but I digress.
And I hope you are not wearing the same hairstyle or makeup either. No, blue eyeshadow does not make your blue eyes any more blue!
Things change. Our taste changes and so does everything else around us. Why do we think our homes shouldn’t continue to evolve? And why are we not budgeting for those changes?
If at all possible make home decor part of your budget. Shop sales for quality items. Buy neutrals and classics. Start now!
ALWAYS be freshening up your home. I’m not saying always buy things for your home.
But here’s what I am saying… always be thinking of ways to keep your home a place you love to live! And make sure your home reflects your style and lifestyle!
I know it is hard to be thankful when we feel unhappy and stuck! But we ARE blessed!
If you have a home you are one very blessed person! No matter how it is furnished.
So start there.
LOVE your home and love it just the way it is. Then as you change it remember to be thankful for every little bit of change.
It’s hard to feel discouraged when we are grateful for our blessings!