Blessing Others With What We Say

Words have power. God says our mouths have the power of life and death! Here’s how to use what we say to bless God and others.

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Lord, put a hand on my shoulder and a hand over my mouth!” If you are like me, you need to say this poignant prayer every day and all day!
Our mouth has great power to bless those around us and to curse as well! How can we love others with our words?

I have a question for you? Do you like the good news or the bad news first? Personally, I like the bad news first, so I can deal with it and move on to the good news.

Good News And Bad News

I have good news and bad news for you today. Let’s deal with the bad first. Before we can bless others with our words, we need to know some pretty sad facts!

The Bible has a lot to say about our mouths (tongue)! And most of it is not good.

The mouth is like a mirror to our very hearts. It is the overflow valve for what we are feeling and thinking! It is uncontrollable by our own power and will betray the ugliness of our souls to the world by what we say!


Out of it comes everything we harbor in our hearts. Both good and bad.

We just have to listen or read the news to see this in action! But we really don’t have to go that far. We can listen to ourselves. Does that hit a little too close to home?

What The Bible Says About Our Tongue

An uncontrolled tongue is like a little fire. It is so powerful it can set a whole forest aflame! In the tongue is a very world of hurt. Opposed to God and filled with unrighteous works.

It is a small part of our body, yet it defiles our whole bodies!

To drive this point home even more… the tongue cannot be tamed by our own power, it is restless to speak evil and is full of deadly poison (James 3:5-9).

So there it is! The bad news laid out before us! Our uncontrolled mouth does the bidding of our desperately wicked hearts (Jere 17:9). They are an infamously deadly team!

You may be asking, “Yvonne, I thought today we were talking about loving others”?

Yes, but first we need to see the true state of our hearts and mouths before we begin to love others with it. If we don’t, we will go on using our mouths to the destruction of others and ourselves.

Let’s just acknowledge that God is right! He knows us even if we can’t admit our true nature!

The Good News

But here’s the good, no great news! When we finally submit and admit our hearts and mouths are as God says, we can begin to use them in ways that truly bless others.

Only by the power of the Holy Spirit can we fight the urge to use our mouths in ungodly ways!

It is a moment-by-moment walk with God to help us control the use of our tongues and to be a help and a blessing to God and others. I know I want that! How about you?

Practical Tips For Controling Our Tongues

Here are some practical ways to control our tongues. But remember, this can only be done when we surrender our hearts (mind, will, emotion, and intellect) to God Himself!

  1. Listen to yourself. We need to be good, avid, active listeners of what we are saying! Notice what you say and how you say it. You might be surprised! “A soothing tongue is the tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.” Pro 15:4.
  2. Stop trying to control what you say! Surrender your heart and mouth to the power of the Holy Spirit. Memorize and use this verse as a devout prayer throughout the day, “Set a guard over my mouth, Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips” Ps 141:3. Then follow the leadings of God. He will lead you to bless and love others with what you say and do!
  3. Stop complaining! This is the sign of an unchecked mouth and heart. Complaining hurts you and others and poisons your attitude! Instead of complaining, talk to the Lord! He is the only one that can help you with any situation! “Do all things without grumbling and complaining.” Phil 2:14
  4. Do not gossip! Gossip is murder! It kills the character of others. When someone hurts us, or we hear something deliciously bad about someone, it is our nature to want to tell others. Don’t give in to that urge. Go to God and tell Him first and pray for the person you feel the need to gossip about! And keep the conversation between you and God! “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” Romans 13:21 “Whoever conceals hatred with lying lips and spreads slander is a fool.” Prov 10:18
  5. Use your mouth to only bless God and be a blessing to others. Your words have power! The power of life and death. Let what you say give life and comfort to others, even your enemies! “Bless the Lord, O my soul: and all that is within me, bless His holy name.” Ps 103:1 “The one who blesses others is abundantly blessed; those who help others are helped.” Pro 11:25

Be A Blessing

Speak only when you can edify someone! Speak kindness and grace! In this, you will love your neighbor!

Today’s Sunday Scripture was a bit of tough love for you and me. But if we wish to love others with what we say, we need to check ourselves first! Right?

It is the goal of my life to be a great blessing to others… and that means YOU! So here is my prayer for you…

May the God of all love and grace bless you and keep your heart pure and your mouth filled to overflowing with blessings! Amen, and amen!

What I’m Memorizing This Week

Here’s what I’m memorizing this week. Won’t you join me and memorize this too?

Set a guard over my mouth, Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips” Ps 141:3.

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  1. My first time here for your Sunday Scripture, it did not disappoint.? Thank you so much for these wise words.
    May the God of all love and grace bless and keep you, as well.?

  2. Your words are always a blessing to me and often encourage me to walk closer to the Lord. Today is powerful!!! Keep up the good work sweet friend.
    May the Lord bless you and keep you. And may He smile upon you and give you His peace.

  3. Oh how I needed this today. I have been trying not to complain so much – my husband pointed this defect out to me. :/
    What we say…“It is the overflow valve to what we are thinking and feelings”. So, so true. Excellent reminder for us all.
    Bless you, Yvonne

    1. From the wellspring of our hearts the mouth speaks. We are all trying to tame our mouth. It’s a lifetime work.

  4. MARY-ANN (FROM CANADA!) says:

    You are such an encouragement to all of us, Yvonne! May God continue to bless you. You are a real blessing to all of us! I thank God for you! You are precious in God’s sight — and in mine!

  5. Well, hmmm…We watch a Cowboy church service out of CO on Sunday mornings, and on Monday evenings have a Bible study with other couples, and I read your Sunday column as well. So many times your words and the words we hear on Sunday morning, or on Monday evening, are about the same subject. And sometimes, all three are about the same subject and I figure the Lord is really trying to reach me through your’s and words of others. Yesterday the pastor made the statement that what comes from our mouths is truly what is in our hearts. I can be a bit of a firecracker, especially when someone says something hurtful, or in another way tries to hurt a member of my family. I know I can still stand up for my loved ones while responding with different words, or even a different tone of voice. I know I’m a work in progress, and sometimes I see improvement!

  6. Beautifully written! God’s love.
    Thank you for your inspiration.