Your home says a whole lot about you! Just look around! Really, stop and look around! The “health” of your home can be an indicator of how you are doing too! I’m not talking about how pristine everything looks or how well appointed your home decor is. It’s more basic than that. It’s about how well cared for and tidy and welcoming your home is. Today, our Practically Speaking series is about how our home can reflect our own personal health and well-being.
American women get much of their identity from the homes we live in. A good deal of our self-worth is often defined by our homes. We may not like to hear this and it may seem superficial. But it’s not. Most women are the caregivers of our home and family. And how we care for our homes is often a reflection of how we care for ourselves.
I’m one of those American women who finds a great deal of identity in my home. And it is so true that the condition and health of my home certainly reflect my mental, emotional, and state!
Since I have been blogging, I can honestly say that my home although much more stylish is certainly messier. And this, at times drives me crazy! A photo shoot or a diy can create a whole lot of upheaval here at StoneGable. And because I am working more than a 40 hour work week, I find that my time to organize and stay on top of things is quite limited. By the end of the day, I often run out of steam!
I tend to keep the “public” areas of my home pretty organized and welcoming but the “private” areas could use a little work. My study for one tends to be a dumping ground for things I don’t have time to put away! And let’s not even talk about my basement.
This causes me a good deal of angst! It’s difficult for me to go into a room that is disorganized and messy. So I usually cope by becoming “mess-blind”. It’s my way of not really seeing the mess at all! So the mess grows and grows like a snowball rolling downhill! It’s really my way of avoiding the issue of not having enough hours in the day.
And it makes sense. I am a person who likes to confront issues head on and get on with life. However, if I can’t see a problem I don’t have to deal with it. So by becoming mess-blind, I can avoid my tendency to be messy when I am overwhelmed.
If I am honest (and I am a pretty transparent person) I can see from my home that I need a little extra help with what I call “schlep work”. Putting things away after a photo shoot, carrying things up and down from the basement or other rooms and keeping organized! Schlep work is a very important job! It is the foundation of a tidy home!
Some woman can’t stand ANYTHING out of place in their homes or don’t like to have company because it means messing their perfect home up. And some families only live in a small part of a larger home to keep it looking fabulous.
Some of us will give up doing fun and social things because we need stick to a rigid homekeeping schedule. Some of us can’t let go of “things” and have too much that clutter and confuse our lives. All of those home related issues reflect a deeper, inner struggle.
Do you think if we just clean up our homes our issues that caused them will go away? Have you seen the show Hoarders? I have a feeling when those people have nice, neat homes their homes might be clean for a little while. But I bet most of them eventually get right back into the same mess because they have not dealt with the issues that caused them.
For me, (let’s use my messy places as an example) I need to re-learn how to put things in their place. And give things I have a home. I like “tidy”. It feels good. It makes me feel like I’m in control. Messy is a sign of things getting out of control.
I need to stop avoiding and start really seeing things, like my messy study, for what it really is. And get busy! I also need to hire someone to help me when my work schedule gets too busy.
And because I know that this messy study problem can creep up on me again, I need to be aware of the issue and act to keep it healthy!
Your house may not be telling you that you have a problem keeping things in control when you get too busy like mine does. It may be telling you something else. Listen to your home!
Let’s get deep and real about what we see in our homes!
How healthy is your home? How welcoming is your home to you and your family and all who come inside?
We all want homes, no matter how grand or simple, that are a pleasure to live in. Homes that are safe and welcoming. We all want homes that reflect our good attitudes and our positive emotions.
What does your home say about you?
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