This is a time of year I think about my blessings. I love Thanksgiving. And if truth be told I almost love Thanksgiving more than Christmas. It’s a time when my whole family gathers around this table and eats and laughs and tells stories. And we all talk about what God has been doing in our lives and what we are thankful for. We also watch football and parades and take walks and naps. Thanksgiving is a time I notice changes in our lives the most and sometimes that can be bittersweet! Change is inevitable and happens whether we like it or not! Change can be good and bad. But, we can see it as a blessing if we choose to see the good in change even when times are not!
I am so happy to be a part of…
13 Bloggers posting what they are thankful for! These are some of the best post I’ve ever read. So sweet and poignant and wonderful. You will love reading all of them!
Our family is in constant change. When my children were little I could not breathe in their lives enough! I knew in my mind that they would grow up… someday… but my heart would not hear that thought. My mother’s heart told me that if my children would grow up I would break into a million pieces. Don’t get me wrong, I loved watching them grow and thrive and sprout their wings… but there was this deep-in-my-heart place that wanted them to stay small and have little birdie voices and sticky fingers and soft little kisses forever! How I loved every minute of their childhood!
These darling sweet babies acted out the Thanksgiving stories with their cousins in preschool made Pilgrim hats and construction paper Indian feathers. They made big messes at our Thanksgiving table and rubbed their pumpkin pie hands on the upholstered chairs. They swung their little legs, which were nowhere close to reaching the floor, kicking anyone in their general vicinity.
These little people held my very heart in their dimpled hands! How I loved those little ones!
But things changed… they changed!
Now when my children come for Thanksgiving they bring their spouses… the new children I have gained by mine growing up. I now have more children to love and the best part is… they let me! My son-in-law, a grown man, calls me Mom and lets me mother him and give him extra long hugs so I can breathe him in too. And my daughter-in-law breezes into my house like a breath of fresh air and let’s me teach her and she gives me the sweetest soft kisses. They too hold my heart in their very capable young adult hands. Oh I can’t imagine my life without them!
It’s easy to see the ongoing ways I am blessed since my children have grown up! I still miss their little arms tightly around my neck but now I have 4 children to hug me! And someday I know that I’ll have lots of little ones with sticky fingers to love when they start their families!
Some changes are even harder than one’s children growing up and leaving home. I can’t help but notice the missing faces around our table! As the years go on more are missing. Nani, then Daddy, and Sandy and Marge. Sometime my heart aches to see my Daddy, just one more time, throw back his head and laugh at a family story. Or to hold my Nani’s rough, overworked, beautiful hand during grace. Or hear my sweet sister-in -law’s soft as a whisper voice. Or listen to my mother-in-law sing her little songs as she doodles along! NOTHING can replace them. But their work on this planet was done and God has called them to their eternal homes! We talk about them around the Thanksgiving table and tell funny stories about them and shed tears over them! But mostly we miss them and are so so thankful for their time with us!
I can see a change in me this year! This past year has been a rough year for me. I’ve had multiple operations and procedures. It was an on going year of complications and setbacks. A year of tentative health! Weeks of being in bed or in the hospital and months of being sick from iv antibiotics! There were some days I felt like I could not go on! But now I can see the light at the end of the proverbial tunnel! Yes, things are looking up. I’m not 100% yet but I am on my way. And when I look in the rear view mirror of my journey I can see immense blessing as family, friends, reader, church and even strangers have circled round me and sometimes literally held me up as I fought to get well. I am changing and getting stronger than ever!
Change can bring blessings in the most unexpected ways. I think the secret to finding our blessings is to look for them in everything. To always be on the lookout for God’s hand and favor and movement in all our circumstances. Good and bad. And Thanksgiving is the perfect time to do just that. Let’s look for blessings and let’s talk about them!
How have you been blessed this year? I’d love to hear!
Thank you for being one of the blessing I am counting this year!
Please stop by these blogs and read some very beautiful stories! Make sure to get out your tissues!
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