With the holiday season coming soon, I want to take this opportunity to talk to you… my dear wonderful readers, about a topic that is near and dear to me. I want to have a little heart to heart about how awesome you are and and to encourage you! In this edition of PRACTICALLY SPEAKING let’s talk about our tendency to compare ourselves to others. especially when it comes to our homes. We all do it and it can leave us feeling “less than” and defeated. We need to guard against this form of self-sabotage and instead, love our homes and ourselves!
I think it is the tendency of all people to inwardly compare ourselves to others. As women, we often compare ourselves to other woman but I’m not going there today. We also compare our homes to the ones we see around us. And “comparison” can suck the very soul out of us!
As we read blogs and magazines and visit others during the holiday we will see so many beautiful things. Even here at StoneGable, I’ll be posting lots of pretty ideas and decor for you to enjoy. I just don’t want you, my beloved readers, to fall into the comparison trap!
The intent of my blog and others it not for your to compare your home to mine… oh, gracious no!!! I always say, “My blog is my real life, but only a slice of it”. You do not see what is on the other side of the camera. My goal is for you to be inspired. StoneGable is for you to say, I love that ___________. That one little thing in a picture or phrase I say that sparks your imagination and creativity and gets you excited about YOUR home.
I hope you see something in the coming weeks that you can say, “I can do that”, or “this gives me an idea” or “now I know what I can do”! I want my blog to make you say… “IF SHE CAN DO IT, SO CAN I”.
“If this woman, who has no design degree and is in the second half of her life can make a lovely home, then I can too”! Because StoneGable is all about encouraging you and sparking your God-given creativity and letting you know that YOU CAN DO IT! Friends, you CAN do it too!
Earlier this week my soul was fed so full of beauty it overflowed! I had the opportunity to visit Amy Howard, the great furniture designer, a leader in the interior design market and owner of Amy Howard At Home. Amy Howard At Home is a line of artisan quality paints and finishes that creates such beauty! A small group of bloggers were invited to Memphis to take part in a workshop. Amy and her husband Gene invited to their home for dinner.
You can’t imagine how excited we all were. As our chartered bus pulled up in front of her home we all knew that we were in for a special treat! The stairs to her home were lit with candles and Amy and her husband were standing outside waiting for us to come. The graciousness of that one act, put all of us at ease. We were hugged and warmly greeted and made to feel like we were their most cherished of guests!
Amy and Gene’s home was the epitome of grace and charm and so beautifully decorated that we all ooohed and aaaahed all evening. Everything, and I mean everything, was stunning and curated and almost beyond description. House perfection! I was so inspired by everything I saw! For me, it was a major lesson in design and form and function!
But the best part of my evening at “pied e terre” was not her beyond-fabulous home. It was not the scrumptious food or the music from their grand piano. It was Amy and Gene’s open and gracious spirit. It was the way they loved us so well and opened up their home and hearts to us while we were there. They were genuine and transparent and fun and caring. No airs of grandeur, no stiffness or stuffiness. Just a generous spirit and lots of love!
I left entirely inspired by what my eyes saw and my ears heard, for sure! But what my heart felt left an indelible mark on me! My soul was filled to overflowing! I will forever remember my night at “pied e terre” as one of the most enjoyable of my life!
So my friends, my hope is for you… and for me… to be inspired by what we see this holiday season. Enjoy it and savor it. Be inspired by it and pull creativity from it… but don’t compare!
And as you celebrate your blessing during the Thanksgiving season and Christ’s birth during Christmas I hope you remember to extend graciousness and love on all those who come to your door! Our homes need to become the vehicle by which we can spread comfort and joy to others!
Practically speaking…Love the home you have… love those who are in it… and love yourself!