The holidays are coming soon and that means parties, dinners, and even overnight stays. I’m sure we recognize all the work and time a host and hostess put into a party or get-together. It’s such an honor to be invited to a soiree… and so much fun! While we are enjoying the festivities here are a few tips to help you not only have a great time but be a perfect guest too!
Today is PRACTICALLY SPEAKING and today’s topic is near and dear to my heart! I love love love to be invited to a gathering so I can mix and mingle! And I want to make sure I do my part to help the host and hostess and keep the party going!
CALL THE HOSTESS AND ASK IF YOU CAN HELP BY BRINGING SOMETHING
Always call the hostess when you get an invitation and offer to bring something. If she says “no thank you” ask if you can bring a bottle of wine or soda or liquor to the party. Even if she really does not need you to bring anything you have made the kind gesture and signaled to your hostess that you are really excited about coming to the party!
What a gift to a hostess if she knows you have one dish or appetizer or bottle of wine handled!
NEVER SHOW UP EMPTY HANDED
I have taught my children a very very important mantra… “Never show up empty handed”! Even if it’s a small lunch or intimate get together. If you are being hosted bring a small token of your appreciation to your hostess… and host!
Here are a few hostess gift ideas
- hostess napkins
- small plant
- unique bottle opener
- journal to party plan
- a fun tea towel
- holiday CD
- gourmet food
- a few vintage silver spoons
- anything homemade
- game (like scrabble or backgammon)
- pretty tray or basket
Although many of the gifts above would work for a combined host and hostess gift it might be fun to give the host a little gift too because they are often overlooked. Here a few ideas…
- coffee mug
- deck of cards
- bbq tool
- coffee traveler
- mini tool kit
- coffee table book
- fun ice mold
DON’T BE CLIQUEY
Work the room! A party is much more of a success if people mingle! That means moving around the chatting with people we know and talking with those we don’t! Nothing kills a part more than everyone sitting around in cliques! Get up and get moving!
Believe it or not, I am an extroverted introvert. I love people and parties but sometimes they zap my energy. So I try to avoid people that suck the air out of a room. Don’t be that person! Give others room to talk and tell their stories too. You don’t need everyone to know how fabulous you are!
MAKE ONE NEW FRIEND
Every time I go to a party I think about making one new friend! I have “found” some of my best and lifelong friends at parties! Be outgoing but not overpowering. If you find a potential friend, ask her if she would like to continue your conversation over coffee or lunch.
PICK UP AFTER YOURSELF
As a hostess, I know how discouraging it can be to pick up after a party is over. If guests would just pick up their cups, glasses, dishes, napkins, etc it would be so much easier for the hostess. As a perfect guest, you can do this! As you put your dishes in or near the sink you can pick up your things and any things you find around you!
If there is an accidental spill or mess tell your hostess immediately! Offer to have it professionally cleaned. A little bit of club soda can do wonders if a spill is caught right away!
Unless you are of college age and going to a frat party, don’t get drunk (and if you are of college age don’t get drunk… think of your mamma!)! Number one rule! No one… and I repeat… no one likes a guest who has had too much to drink. It’s disrespectful and a burden to your hostess and host!
KEEP AN EYE ON YOUR KIDS
If the party you are going to includes children make sure to keep an eye on yours! It is not the hostess and host’s job to watch your kiddos. Don’t let your children do anything you would not let them do in your own home!
Also bring a little bag of things to occupy your children in case the home you are going to does not have age appropriate toys.
ASK THE HOSTESS IF YOU CAN HELP
As the party get’s going, ask the hostess if you can give her a hand. It does not mean you will spend all evening slaving away as the party is roaring around you. Just spend a couple minutes showing your hostess that you care!
DONT LEAVE WITHOUT SAYING “GOODBYE”
Say your “goodnights” to the host and hostess before you leave the party. Spend just a minute thanking them for inviting you!
CALL THE HOSTESS OR DROP HER A THANK YOU CARD
I have a friend who calls me the day after a get-together and tells me how much fun she had. This means so much to me! Call your host and hostess the next day or drop them a thank you card. I bet you will make their day and you will get invited to their next event!
It does not matter if you are invited to a gala or a small get-together. These tips will help you be the perfect quest and put you at the top of the guest list!
Do you have a tip you can share? We would love to hear!!!
Here are some of the hostess gifts I would love to get! Click on the picture to go see it. Why not have a small stash of great little gifts that you can take to any hostess?
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